Last Thursday the mage surprised me at night, as his arrival from work was heralded by a lovely portable cradle “moisés” filled with many goodies for Deirdre. Yup, his co-workers had surprised him with a nice baby-shower. I was surprised at all the stuff they gave us. So half of it all was pink, somehow I didn’t really mind. With all that a big weight was lift off my shoulders… at least Deirdre will have a nice place to sleep at our bed’s side for the next months after her birth. That had me going insane.
We decided to leave the kitties in the room for now… I have been thinking that perhaps it would be best to give Deirdre our room since the kitties are used NOT to go in there. What I will do is either take the kitties room or close up the upstairs “kitchen” area so it becomes a room. Anyway, that will be decided by December. For now, it is not so important. I’m focusing on making downstairs nice and pretty so it looks and feels like home. Upstairs is a matter of redoing the bathroom (which I envision will look perfect) and keep everything else clean. That should make me happy.
Yesterday during the morning had to do the first NST at the Metro Hospital. In human terms, fetus monitoring. What was supposed to take half an hour took almost two due to the nurse noticing that there was no flatline where it should be, but small rises that are a bit sequential… So I’m having contractions and I don’t know about it. I found that funny, but I know it’s not. Next week should make the second test on Tuesday, and got the doctor’s appointment on Friday… Anyway I was warned that if anything out of the ordinary happens I should fly away to The Concepción Hospital because there is a high chance of the baby due way before the expected date. Ok, so I want a Leo, but gee, gimme a break!!! I know, I should have a packed bag ready in the car, just in case, so wherever I am I just have to worry about getting to the hospital… I should try getting what I need between today and tomorrow. Luckily, not much to buy for Deirdre. People have been extra nice to her… and THAT has been quite a surprise!
In the afternoon they did a Baby Shower at work. I already knew it was gonna happen due to some infiltrated info from the mage, plus I’ve already seen the yellow bath and I had caught Cook infraganti while she did something on the shower’s schedule papers… LOL What I did not expect was to see in the wall a cardboard drawing of Pirate Kitty and even the less, a Pirate Keroppi! I love Kitty, but Keroppi has been my all-time favorite and no one really knows about this detail, so it was pretty fun that out of all characters they did Keroppi. I was also surprised at the gifts… Been here for more than 6 years and I know the standard for baby showers is one big basket made of the baby’s bath filled with stuff, and maybe two bags each from the closest people around… I got Three baskets filled with baby stuff, and ten bags, each from certain specific people. I also got a group gift from RUM and from Yauco. Yes, it was quite overwhelming. I guess that’s just how the mage felt when he had his baby shower at his work… LOL Well, another custom at the office is the program with some entertainment tailored to the girl having the baby. They knew I wouldn’t like the pink games they always do (although I was too happy to really mind anything), so… the theater lady of the office did a small performance based on a pregnant lady from Quintuples. From that inspiration came Doña Luz, who would give a small emergency conference about what to do in case of an emergency… That was hilarious. She got a pregnant belly, and even threw an inflatable lounge chair in the floor to show some techniques… Got three people reading poems and then the gift opening and the eating session. So, all in all, it was not the bad experience I expected… I guess people like me more than I thought… in some strange twist of fate…
Later in the night while I was reminiscing on it all, I realized that even Willo was there in the front row, third seat. What about it? Willo is the office rebel and loner that NEVER goes to activities and NEVER participates on anything. There was a gift from him, and he was actually present in there, smiling. I went to his office today as I got to work, asking him if he had a terminal illness or something. He laughed his ass off… and added that of all the people in the office it was something made for me, and he wouldn’t miss it. Damn, that should brighten anyone’s day!
So… Now all is left is the Private Baby Shower, which has been the drama of the month… Witnessing the insanity has been fun, even if sometimes one just wanna strangle the people involved. But I know in their own way the do have the best of wishes and desires involved… Sometimes the less you plan something and the more on the spot you get, the better. Just follow the simple lines: Have lots of food and drinks, kill your enemy, and enjoy the laments of your enemy’s women. Ah, Conan knew the good life!
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Wednesday, July 18, 2007
WEEK 34
From www.whattoexpect.com
BODY: Vision Quest
Your eyes do not deceive you: Your uterus is still growing (and you thought there was no more room!) and is around five inches above your navel now. But wait…are your eyes actually deceiving you…or at least, playing tricks on you? Many women discover that their vision seems less sharp during pregnancy, or that their contact lenses are less comfortable than they used to be. Pregnancy hormones do more to your body than meets the eye, yet they also do plenty to your eyes. They affect not only your digestive tract and your ligaments (not to mention your reproductive organs), but also cause a decrease in tear production, leading to eye dryness, irritation, and discomfort. What's more, the same fluid buildup that causes your ankles to swell can also cause the curvature of your eye to change. You may find wearing glasses rather than contact lenses to be more comfortable during your pregnancy. These eye changes are temporary conditions, and vision usually returns to normal after delivery (so no need to get a new prescription). Do keep in mind that certain more serious vision problems can be a sign of gestational diabetes or high blood pressure, so be sure to mention any vision changes to your practitioner.
BABY: A Rising Doughboy (or Girl)
Your baby could be as tall as 20 inches right now and about five pounds. Need a visual? Hold a five-pound bag of flour in your arms and imagine it's your soon-to-be-born baby (cradle it, and you'll only get strange looks in the baking aisle). Then stack three such bags one on top of the other (and get ready for some more strange looks, maybe from the same clerks who saw you grinning and holding that one-pound box of sugar a few weeks ago). That's how tall your baby is now. (Now go bake some oatmeal raisin cookies with all that flour!) If your little doughboy is, well, a boy, then you'll be pleased to know that this week his testicles are making their way down from his abdomen to his scrotum. (Some baby boys — three to four percent — are born with undescended testicles, but they usually make the trip down sometime before the first birthday.). Your baby's fingernails now reach the end of the fingertips and may even curl over the tip, making a manicure one of the first things you'll need to do for your little bundle.
EXTRA: A Cheeky Trick
Look in the mirror — is that you or Alvin the Chipmunk? If your cheeks are looking as round as your belly these days, you're in good company — most expectant women start sporting that gathering-nuts-for-the-winter look in their third trimester. Though you may not really rediscover your cheekbones until after delivery, you can pretend that you have with these makeup tricks: Dot some concealer along the sides of your nose and brush a light shade of blush or bronzer along the center length of your nose. (That slims your nose to take the attention off it.) Next, apply a light shade of blush onto the apples of your cheeks; then, following the line of your cheekbones, apply a sheer sweep of a slightly deeper shade. Blend the two and smile — you're gorgeous.
EXTRA: Dear Baby…
You've got so many hopes and dreams about your baby, and each one is worth remembering and sharing. Record them (before you forget) by writing a letter — or a series of letters — to your baby. Feel a little funny writing to a fetus — and one you've never met? Don't, just speak from the heart. Start by visualizing your baby, and writing down what you see in your mind's eye. (Gorgeous, of course! Brilliant, duh !) Talk about what this pregnancy means to you, and how it's changing your body and your world. Recount the foods you craved (the cheese, grape jelly, and pickle sandwiches) and the lengths you went to satisfy those cravings (driving six miles out of the way to the one deli that would make it). Relay how you chose your baby's name (you have chosen it by now, haven't you?) or the colors for the nursery. Share your reaction when you first found out you were pregnant; when you felt those first kicks; when you found out your baby's sex (if you have). Imagine what your future will be like together (do you see yourself pushing a swing in the park, tossing a football on the front lawn, baking muffins in the kitchen), and what your baby's future might be like. (A movie star? A scientist? The president — dream big!) Open up your heart, put the contents on paper — and seal it with a kiss. Your letter to your baby is certain to become one of your most treasured possessions — and eventually, your child's.
DAD: Get Packing
It's time: Pack the overnight bag for the hospital together. She no doubt knows what she needs, but she's likely to forget something in her excitement and anxiety. Print out the Packing for the Hospital Checklist, talk about what personal items she wants included, and double-check that everything is in the suitcase. Don't forget a few CDs of her favorite music — and maybe a deck of cards in case her labor takes a long, long time.
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BODY: Vision Quest
Your eyes do not deceive you: Your uterus is still growing (and you thought there was no more room!) and is around five inches above your navel now. But wait…are your eyes actually deceiving you…or at least, playing tricks on you? Many women discover that their vision seems less sharp during pregnancy, or that their contact lenses are less comfortable than they used to be. Pregnancy hormones do more to your body than meets the eye, yet they also do plenty to your eyes. They affect not only your digestive tract and your ligaments (not to mention your reproductive organs), but also cause a decrease in tear production, leading to eye dryness, irritation, and discomfort. What's more, the same fluid buildup that causes your ankles to swell can also cause the curvature of your eye to change. You may find wearing glasses rather than contact lenses to be more comfortable during your pregnancy. These eye changes are temporary conditions, and vision usually returns to normal after delivery (so no need to get a new prescription). Do keep in mind that certain more serious vision problems can be a sign of gestational diabetes or high blood pressure, so be sure to mention any vision changes to your practitioner.
BABY: A Rising Doughboy (or Girl)
Your baby could be as tall as 20 inches right now and about five pounds. Need a visual? Hold a five-pound bag of flour in your arms and imagine it's your soon-to-be-born baby (cradle it, and you'll only get strange looks in the baking aisle). Then stack three such bags one on top of the other (and get ready for some more strange looks, maybe from the same clerks who saw you grinning and holding that one-pound box of sugar a few weeks ago). That's how tall your baby is now. (Now go bake some oatmeal raisin cookies with all that flour!) If your little doughboy is, well, a boy, then you'll be pleased to know that this week his testicles are making their way down from his abdomen to his scrotum. (Some baby boys — three to four percent — are born with undescended testicles, but they usually make the trip down sometime before the first birthday.). Your baby's fingernails now reach the end of the fingertips and may even curl over the tip, making a manicure one of the first things you'll need to do for your little bundle.
EXTRA: A Cheeky Trick
Look in the mirror — is that you or Alvin the Chipmunk? If your cheeks are looking as round as your belly these days, you're in good company — most expectant women start sporting that gathering-nuts-for-the-winter look in their third trimester. Though you may not really rediscover your cheekbones until after delivery, you can pretend that you have with these makeup tricks: Dot some concealer along the sides of your nose and brush a light shade of blush or bronzer along the center length of your nose. (That slims your nose to take the attention off it.) Next, apply a light shade of blush onto the apples of your cheeks; then, following the line of your cheekbones, apply a sheer sweep of a slightly deeper shade. Blend the two and smile — you're gorgeous.
EXTRA: Dear Baby…
You've got so many hopes and dreams about your baby, and each one is worth remembering and sharing. Record them (before you forget) by writing a letter — or a series of letters — to your baby. Feel a little funny writing to a fetus — and one you've never met? Don't, just speak from the heart. Start by visualizing your baby, and writing down what you see in your mind's eye. (Gorgeous, of course! Brilliant, duh !) Talk about what this pregnancy means to you, and how it's changing your body and your world. Recount the foods you craved (the cheese, grape jelly, and pickle sandwiches) and the lengths you went to satisfy those cravings (driving six miles out of the way to the one deli that would make it). Relay how you chose your baby's name (you have chosen it by now, haven't you?) or the colors for the nursery. Share your reaction when you first found out you were pregnant; when you felt those first kicks; when you found out your baby's sex (if you have). Imagine what your future will be like together (do you see yourself pushing a swing in the park, tossing a football on the front lawn, baking muffins in the kitchen), and what your baby's future might be like. (A movie star? A scientist? The president — dream big!) Open up your heart, put the contents on paper — and seal it with a kiss. Your letter to your baby is certain to become one of your most treasured possessions — and eventually, your child's.
DAD: Get Packing
It's time: Pack the overnight bag for the hospital together. She no doubt knows what she needs, but she's likely to forget something in her excitement and anxiety. Print out the Packing for the Hospital Checklist, talk about what personal items she wants included, and double-check that everything is in the suitcase. Don't forget a few CDs of her favorite music — and maybe a deck of cards in case her labor takes a long, long time.
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Tuesday, July 10, 2007
Sunshine of the spotless hope...
Been quite hysterical about everything lately. Finances down, making everything too difficult. Worried about what I should have by now, what I don’t and what needs to be fixed in the friggin house so at least basics are done. Not easy… Very stressful… Didn’t stop to think that letting it all out would pass the stress to the mage in a negative way. Wasn’t my intention to make him more stressed than he already must be…
Yesterday was about surprising me… I guess it’s Heaven’s way of letting me know that I should have more faith, that things are not so grim as I think… The co-worker that lend me the breastfeeding book had a small surprise. She brought the infant car seat she’s no longer using, along with the breastfeeding donut, a baby carrying sling, car shades and the microwaveable bottle sterilizer. That was really nice of her. When strangers do unexpected things for you… But she can relate to me in many ways. It was her hubby and her, not much family sharing anything and lots of financial gambling.
Another co-worker, the one with the son-in-law that works in the hospital putting anesthesia, also told me she had something to give me. She got the crib bumpers and some clothing (her daughter went on a buying spree since she’s having a baby too and got carried away and in the end didn’t like/want/need some items she got).
There was a morning presentation on retirement plans... Got convinced with an insurance that works like a savings account but without gov tributation and without risk and with a fair interest rate... Decided to enroll on that, so there will be some sort of funding from here to 20 years either to finish off debts or to help Deirdre's education or to keep for my own retirement... Was thinking of that anyway, but I know a savings account wouldn't work for me, it's too accessible.
By the end of the day got a call from one of the loan places, and upon explaining the situation they worked on approving a renovation that may be of help to actually do the basic stuff, leave a small reserve just in case and breathe a bit.
I guess the ups and downs in everything has also been affecting the way I process insulin, getting high ranges of 157 to 200 by midday without straying far from the diet… Don’t know what more I can do about that. Had to limit tests because the needles are expensive and couldn’t get them. Tomorrow I have a gyn appointment, we’ll see what he has to say about that.
Moody, sad... Trying to find a positive side on things (which I don't really see...) Oh, well... Just got the address of a pulguero nearby that has affordable ovejos. Yup, gotta get me a pair of sheep so they take care of the riscos from Anthill... LOL I'm not kidding... Easy to maintain (they eat anything with leaves) and seems they are better than cabritos because they get to the root of grass and stuff, cabritos are more stubborn and fickle. Or so says the Cock expert... Perhaps this would help me get over the idea of selling the house...
In the meanwhile, Deirdre has been kicking to the music of the Sims… I think she likes the game… Who knew…
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Yesterday was about surprising me… I guess it’s Heaven’s way of letting me know that I should have more faith, that things are not so grim as I think… The co-worker that lend me the breastfeeding book had a small surprise. She brought the infant car seat she’s no longer using, along with the breastfeeding donut, a baby carrying sling, car shades and the microwaveable bottle sterilizer. That was really nice of her. When strangers do unexpected things for you… But she can relate to me in many ways. It was her hubby and her, not much family sharing anything and lots of financial gambling.
Another co-worker, the one with the son-in-law that works in the hospital putting anesthesia, also told me she had something to give me. She got the crib bumpers and some clothing (her daughter went on a buying spree since she’s having a baby too and got carried away and in the end didn’t like/want/need some items she got).
There was a morning presentation on retirement plans... Got convinced with an insurance that works like a savings account but without gov tributation and without risk and with a fair interest rate... Decided to enroll on that, so there will be some sort of funding from here to 20 years either to finish off debts or to help Deirdre's education or to keep for my own retirement... Was thinking of that anyway, but I know a savings account wouldn't work for me, it's too accessible.
By the end of the day got a call from one of the loan places, and upon explaining the situation they worked on approving a renovation that may be of help to actually do the basic stuff, leave a small reserve just in case and breathe a bit.
I guess the ups and downs in everything has also been affecting the way I process insulin, getting high ranges of 157 to 200 by midday without straying far from the diet… Don’t know what more I can do about that. Had to limit tests because the needles are expensive and couldn’t get them. Tomorrow I have a gyn appointment, we’ll see what he has to say about that.
Moody, sad... Trying to find a positive side on things (which I don't really see...) Oh, well... Just got the address of a pulguero nearby that has affordable ovejos. Yup, gotta get me a pair of sheep so they take care of the riscos from Anthill... LOL I'm not kidding... Easy to maintain (they eat anything with leaves) and seems they are better than cabritos because they get to the root of grass and stuff, cabritos are more stubborn and fickle. Or so says the Cock expert... Perhaps this would help me get over the idea of selling the house...
In the meanwhile, Deirdre has been kicking to the music of the Sims… I think she likes the game… Who knew…
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WEEK 33
from www.whattoexpect.com
BODY: Insomnia
How unfair — that when you need it the most, you can't get it. You keep on telling yourself it's the last opportunity for a long, long time (at least until your baby's sleeping through the night). But you still can't get any. No, not sex, woman — sleep! Third-trimester insomnia strikes more than 75 percent of expectant moms — very tired expectant moms. All the hormonal changes, the midnight treks to the bathroom, the leg cramps, the heartburn that won't quit, the fact that you can't get comfortable when you're in bed with a watermelon where your tummy used to be, and the anxiety you're likely feeling about the impending birth of your baby (and the fact that you still haven't decided on a name for your baby) all contribute to your inability to catch some satisfying z's. Looking for ways to summon the sandman? Worrying about it won't help, and neither will staring at the clock watching the minutes tick by. Instead try a warm bath and perhaps a warm cup of milk before turning in, avoid exercising, eating, or drinking too close to bedtime, and solicit your partner for a massage (you deserve it!). If sleep still eludes you, read a book or listen to soothing music until drowsiness sets in. If nothing works, at least you can be comforted knowing that this may just be Mother Nature's way of getting you ready for the sleepless nights ahead.
BABY: Water Weight
This week your baby may be anywhere between 17 to 19 inches in length and weigh more than four and a half pounds. Your baby could grow a full inch more this week alone — especially if he or she has been on the shorter side. Weight gain can range from a third more growth to a full doubling before the big debut. The level of amniotic fluid in your uterus has reached its maximum, making it likely that you have more baby than fluid now. That's one reason why you're probably feeling lots of nudges and pushes — there's less liquid to cushion the blows. (Of course that means you're even closer to your baby now!). If your uterine walls had eyes, here's what you'd see: your fetus acting more and more like a baby, with his or her eyes closing during sleep and opening while awake. And because those uterine walls are becoming thinner, more light penetrates the womb, helping your baby differentiate between day and night (now if only baby can remember that difference on the outside!). And good news! Your baby has reached an important milestone about now: The development of his or her own immune system that (along with antibodies from you) will be able to provide protection from mild infections.
LOOKS: How Dry I Am
Feeling kinda crocodilian? Another side effect of your expanding body (and that belly that just keeps on going…and going…) is dry, itchy skin. Here are some soothing strategies: Moisturize early and often — look for moisturizers that have no dyes or perfumes (your skin is still extra-sensitive these days) and apply them when your skin is still damp to trap moisture in; wear lightweight cotton clothes that allow skin to breathe (especially helpful if you're feeling hot all over); switch to a dye-and-perfume-free detergent (probably a good idea anyway now that baby's almost here); and soak in an oatmeal bath.
EXTRA: Building a Better Brain
Studies suggest that infants born to mothers whose diets contain plenty of omega-3 fatty acids (DHA) have an edge in terms of early development. So if you eat your wild salmon, will your kid go to Harvard? Maybe, maybe not. But fish is a great source of DHA, which is critical to brain and vision development. (Almost all of baby's accumulation of DHA occurs during the last trimester.) DHA may also help prevent preterm labor and protect against postpartum depression. But haven't you heard that fish is unsafe for pregnant women? Actually, the FDA says you can eat up to 12 ounces (two average meals) a week of a variety of fish and shellfish that are low in mercury, such as shrimp, tilapia, red snapper, salmon (wild is best, organic farmed next best), pollock, and catfish. Steer clear of swordfish, shark, and fresh tuna, which are more likely to contain toxins. Hate fish? Other DHA sources include algae-derived supplements (check your health food store and with your practitioner) and DHA eggs, available in most supermarkets.
DAD: Thinking for Two
She's always been the one who remembered everything (your parents' anniversary, the plans you had for next weekend, the meeting with the accountant you spaced on) and kept track of everything — wasn't she the one with car key radar? But suddenly, you may have noticed, she's the one forgetting meetings and appointments; she's the one who can't find her blue suit (because she didn't remember to pick it up at the cleaners); and she's the one who's turning the house upside down to locate her car keys. Welcome to Pregnancy Brain Fog — another seemingly random symptom triggered by pregnancy hormones. Instead of ragging on her for her forgetfulness, help her cope with it. Help her search for her keys (or better still, put a key collecting bowl at the front door), remember to pick up the dry cleaning so she doesn't have to, and casually mention at breakfast that important meeting she has this afternoon (before it slips her mind).
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BODY: Insomnia
How unfair — that when you need it the most, you can't get it. You keep on telling yourself it's the last opportunity for a long, long time (at least until your baby's sleeping through the night). But you still can't get any. No, not sex, woman — sleep! Third-trimester insomnia strikes more than 75 percent of expectant moms — very tired expectant moms. All the hormonal changes, the midnight treks to the bathroom, the leg cramps, the heartburn that won't quit, the fact that you can't get comfortable when you're in bed with a watermelon where your tummy used to be, and the anxiety you're likely feeling about the impending birth of your baby (and the fact that you still haven't decided on a name for your baby) all contribute to your inability to catch some satisfying z's. Looking for ways to summon the sandman? Worrying about it won't help, and neither will staring at the clock watching the minutes tick by. Instead try a warm bath and perhaps a warm cup of milk before turning in, avoid exercising, eating, or drinking too close to bedtime, and solicit your partner for a massage (you deserve it!). If sleep still eludes you, read a book or listen to soothing music until drowsiness sets in. If nothing works, at least you can be comforted knowing that this may just be Mother Nature's way of getting you ready for the sleepless nights ahead.
BABY: Water Weight
This week your baby may be anywhere between 17 to 19 inches in length and weigh more than four and a half pounds. Your baby could grow a full inch more this week alone — especially if he or she has been on the shorter side. Weight gain can range from a third more growth to a full doubling before the big debut. The level of amniotic fluid in your uterus has reached its maximum, making it likely that you have more baby than fluid now. That's one reason why you're probably feeling lots of nudges and pushes — there's less liquid to cushion the blows. (Of course that means you're even closer to your baby now!). If your uterine walls had eyes, here's what you'd see: your fetus acting more and more like a baby, with his or her eyes closing during sleep and opening while awake. And because those uterine walls are becoming thinner, more light penetrates the womb, helping your baby differentiate between day and night (now if only baby can remember that difference on the outside!). And good news! Your baby has reached an important milestone about now: The development of his or her own immune system that (along with antibodies from you) will be able to provide protection from mild infections.
LOOKS: How Dry I Am
Feeling kinda crocodilian? Another side effect of your expanding body (and that belly that just keeps on going…and going…) is dry, itchy skin. Here are some soothing strategies: Moisturize early and often — look for moisturizers that have no dyes or perfumes (your skin is still extra-sensitive these days) and apply them when your skin is still damp to trap moisture in; wear lightweight cotton clothes that allow skin to breathe (especially helpful if you're feeling hot all over); switch to a dye-and-perfume-free detergent (probably a good idea anyway now that baby's almost here); and soak in an oatmeal bath.
EXTRA: Building a Better Brain
Studies suggest that infants born to mothers whose diets contain plenty of omega-3 fatty acids (DHA) have an edge in terms of early development. So if you eat your wild salmon, will your kid go to Harvard? Maybe, maybe not. But fish is a great source of DHA, which is critical to brain and vision development. (Almost all of baby's accumulation of DHA occurs during the last trimester.) DHA may also help prevent preterm labor and protect against postpartum depression. But haven't you heard that fish is unsafe for pregnant women? Actually, the FDA says you can eat up to 12 ounces (two average meals) a week of a variety of fish and shellfish that are low in mercury, such as shrimp, tilapia, red snapper, salmon (wild is best, organic farmed next best), pollock, and catfish. Steer clear of swordfish, shark, and fresh tuna, which are more likely to contain toxins. Hate fish? Other DHA sources include algae-derived supplements (check your health food store and with your practitioner) and DHA eggs, available in most supermarkets.
DAD: Thinking for Two
She's always been the one who remembered everything (your parents' anniversary, the plans you had for next weekend, the meeting with the accountant you spaced on) and kept track of everything — wasn't she the one with car key radar? But suddenly, you may have noticed, she's the one forgetting meetings and appointments; she's the one who can't find her blue suit (because she didn't remember to pick it up at the cleaners); and she's the one who's turning the house upside down to locate her car keys. Welcome to Pregnancy Brain Fog — another seemingly random symptom triggered by pregnancy hormones. Instead of ragging on her for her forgetfulness, help her cope with it. Help her search for her keys (or better still, put a key collecting bowl at the front door), remember to pick up the dry cleaning so she doesn't have to, and casually mention at breakfast that important meeting she has this afternoon (before it slips her mind).
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Thursday, July 5, 2007
Between advices and heatstroke...
Ok, another experience on childbirth session… A coworker asked about how was everything doing… And ended up telling her two experiences. How nice… The first one that was a chaotic natural birth and the second that was almost natural ending up in cesarean thanks to the baby placing its fingers before the head and wiggling them to the doctor… Good thing was the description of the hospital and how it treated her. So it seems that La Concepción is really in good standing with the ones who have given birth there. This one told me to arrive early so I am certain to get a room… and that its either a solo or a dual room (in Perea is everyone in the same place). She also told me to bring music, focus on something I like, and ask not to have the clock in front of me so I wouldn’t get desperate.
Yesterday it was all a conspirancy to have me dizzy and nauseous and vomiting and with acute headache… Midday heat lead to heatstroke, and then when I expected things to get a bit better there was a mosquito plague control poison thrown early in the morning that made me nauseous and dizzy and with acute headache again… Ugh! Neverending story. Deirdre seems to be dancing the Egyptian dance, moving her arms side to side… sometimes it bothers when she does it below the bellybutton, but most of the time it’s really amusing… Looks like an alien ready to poke out!
The BabyShower crew held a small meeting at home to cleanup the patio. I have not checked myself, but the mage told me most is done so the surroundings are bearable. I hope the gov people shows up soon so they take care of the debris. Anyway, thanks for the effort. Three spiders gave their lives for the cause, and that is priceless! ;P
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Yesterday it was all a conspirancy to have me dizzy and nauseous and vomiting and with acute headache… Midday heat lead to heatstroke, and then when I expected things to get a bit better there was a mosquito plague control poison thrown early in the morning that made me nauseous and dizzy and with acute headache again… Ugh! Neverending story. Deirdre seems to be dancing the Egyptian dance, moving her arms side to side… sometimes it bothers when she does it below the bellybutton, but most of the time it’s really amusing… Looks like an alien ready to poke out!
The BabyShower crew held a small meeting at home to cleanup the patio. I have not checked myself, but the mage told me most is done so the surroundings are bearable. I hope the gov people shows up soon so they take care of the debris. Anyway, thanks for the effort. Three spiders gave their lives for the cause, and that is priceless! ;P
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Tuesday, July 3, 2007
Quietly... Lovingly...
Deirdre has been quiet for almost a day and a half, occasional knocks to let me know that yes she’s there just feeling lazy or something… Lazy, and getting heavier. I’m breathless and going up and down the stairs at home is quite a task… I managed to paint a lot in the weekend, although at nights I definitively felt the burden of the heavy weight that lays inside of me. Mainly I get soreness around the belly, and very tired legs… Nothing that sleep wouldn’t cure IF only I could sleep at least 4 hours straight without having to wake up… The 2-3 hour routine may be normal and is definitively normally taxing. For someone like me, who needs to sleep 9 hours at least this is a killer. If the girl turns out to be a heavy crier, I may shoot myself… By default I cannot stand continuous noises… So that should prove interesting… But no, don’t worry… I have handled helpless babies in distress and in need of being fed and attended (ok, so they have been kitties at the time, but baby kitties do count! They are as annoying as human counterparts!). And the small furry bundles of joy are now big furry bundles of mayhem, so I must have done something good… Ermm… I think…
The mage has been taking care of everything related to trying making me feel happy, or to ease life up. I know that he sometimes feel too helpless, but hey… I also know that he takes care of me in every detail, and I know I can count on him to do what must be done if I simply can’t. Of all things, he is a wonderful loving husband, and he is a loving father… Love is a fountain without end in his heart, he has much to give and life had denied that privilege to him for so long… I hope I can make him as happy as he makes me, as well as I hope that we will have a close family raised within the boundaries of virtue, truth, honesty and true love.
The baby shower is just around the corner… Things sound a bit chaotic, but well… I expected that… it happens when people with very different points of view work together… And it is what makes things interesting. LOL I would be so simple… Just bring a BBQ, ask people to bring burguers and hot dogs and soda, and just sit in the floor. And don’t forget the RUM, Matey!!! But… oh so much planning… and the drama of it… Thank God it is not in my hands. The stress would make me shed too much and I would grow bold… But all in all it’s fun. See, Deirdre, you aint born yet, and you are already The Source of All Chaos! Oh, the minion of Kali! The bringer of destruction and death, and rebirth and life! Ok… I’ll get a grip. It’s a wrap…
10-4
The mage has been taking care of everything related to trying making me feel happy, or to ease life up. I know that he sometimes feel too helpless, but hey… I also know that he takes care of me in every detail, and I know I can count on him to do what must be done if I simply can’t. Of all things, he is a wonderful loving husband, and he is a loving father… Love is a fountain without end in his heart, he has much to give and life had denied that privilege to him for so long… I hope I can make him as happy as he makes me, as well as I hope that we will have a close family raised within the boundaries of virtue, truth, honesty and true love.
The baby shower is just around the corner… Things sound a bit chaotic, but well… I expected that… it happens when people with very different points of view work together… And it is what makes things interesting. LOL I would be so simple… Just bring a BBQ, ask people to bring burguers and hot dogs and soda, and just sit in the floor. And don’t forget the RUM, Matey!!! But… oh so much planning… and the drama of it… Thank God it is not in my hands. The stress would make me shed too much and I would grow bold… But all in all it’s fun. See, Deirdre, you aint born yet, and you are already The Source of All Chaos! Oh, the minion of Kali! The bringer of destruction and death, and rebirth and life! Ok… I’ll get a grip. It’s a wrap…
10-4
Monday, July 2, 2007
WEEK 32
from www.WhatToExpect.com
MOM: Braxton Hicks Contractions
How do you get to delivery? Practice, practice, practice. You might not be ready for the baby (still haven't picked out that nursery color yet), but your body is certainly gearing up for the big day. And you're reminded of this each time you feel your uterus tightening up. Those are Braxton Hicks contractions — irregular practice contractions that can be first felt around mid-pregnancy and increase in frequency and strength as your pregnancy progresses. Many novice moms-to-be don't notice them as much (or feel them as intensely) as those who are pregnant for the second time, but even first timers are aware of them occasionally. As you get closer to term, they'll become stronger (beginning at the top of your uterus and spreading downward), longer (lasting 15 to 30 seconds or as long as two minutes), and even a little painful. Braxton Hicks contractions are part of prelabor; in effect a warm-up for the real thing. And though they are not true labor and do not dilate or efface the cervix, they may be difficult to distinguish from real labor as they become more intense. To help with the discomfort of Braxton Hicks contractions, change positions (lie down if you're walking around, get up if you're in bed) or take a warm bath. If the contractions do not go away with a change in activity, and become progressively stronger and more regular, you may be in real labor, so be sure to put in a call to your practitioner.
BABY: Squirming, Pushing, Growing
This week your baby weighs almost four pounds and could be up to 19 inches long. And though that's a head-to-toe length, your baby is actually back to a curled-up position (you try standing up in those cramped quarters!). You're likely feeling tapping and squirming instead of your baby's signature rocking and rolling. That's because, while comfy, your baby is a bit tight for exercise space right now. Your baby has also probably settled into the head-down, bottoms-up position in your pelvis. That's because the fetus's head fits better at the bottom of your inverted, pear-shaped uterus. It also makes it easier during childbirth if your baby comes out head first. Fewer than five percent of babies prefer the bottom-down (or breech) position by full-term. Don't worry if your baby hasn't assumed the head-down position yet. There's still a good chance he or she will flip head-side-down before birth — even in the tight confines of your uterus. While your baby is still getting nourishment through the umbilical cord, it won't be long before you'll be bringing on the breast milk or formula (and soon after, the mashed carrots and peas). In anticipation of that momentous transition to mouth feeding, your baby's digestive system is all set and ready to go. And because your baby is accumulating more fat, his or her skin is finally turning opaque (like yours), which means those see-through days are over. Though weeks away from D-day, your baby's looking more and more like a newborn. And speaking of that big day, hope you're resting up for it — because your bambino certainly is. In preparation for that big first date with you, your baby is sleeping like a baby — with sleep cycles of 20 to 40 minutes long (which would also account for the decrease in movement you're likely feeling these days).
LOOKING GOOD: Insane Veins
Yes, you hate them (what's not to hate?), but varicose veins, or swollen blood vessels, are actually more hideous than harmful. The reason why they develop or get worse during pregnancy is because you've got more blood pumping through your body, and your growing uterus is pressing against veins in the pelvic region, allowing all that extra blood to pool in your legs. Hormones only add to the problem (duh! ) by causing blood vessels to relax. What's a mom-to-be to do? Exercise daily to improve circulation (and take frequent breaks from sitting or standing), don't gain too much weight, elevate your legs as often as possible, and sleep on your left side to relieve pressure on your main blood vessels. One more thing to try: Put on support hose before you get out of bed in the morning to prevent the blood from pooling. (The sexiness never ends, does it?)
EXTRA: Neck Know-How
If you're like most women, you carry a lot of tension in your neck, especially during pregnancy, when your posture is off-kilter. The result can be — a pain in the neck. One way to loosen your muscles and relax your mind at the same time is with simple stretches you can do anytime, anywhere. Start by tilting your head to one side, without raising your shoulders (try to melt them down the back instead). Hold for three seconds and exhale. Repeat on the other side. Do this several times a day — at your desk, while you're waiting at your practitioner's office, or on line at the post office.
EXTRA: Baby's First Mall Portrait?
Ultrasound is a tried-and-true prenatal tool (and a window into the wonderful world of your womb), but lately this procedure has taken a giant leap from the confines of a doctor's office to a storefront at the mall. Is it safe to take a peek inside your tummy on the way to Sears? While the FDA has yet to establish rules on these prenatal photography studios, they do warn against having ultrasounds for fun (as opposed to for medical reasons), since such three-dimensional imaging machines use much higher power than the typical ultrasound machines at your doctor's office. And many medical professionals fear that nervous moms-to-be will come away wrongly convinced there's something wrong with their babies, or, worse, that the untrained wand wavers will miss real problems that would be detected by a pro. If you do choose elective sonography, do so wisely (and after you check with your practitioner for the go-ahead). While there's nothing more precious than seeing your baby in three dimensions (except, of course, seeing your baby for real once it's born), limit your visits to one or two, each no more than 15 minutes in length. And bring your wallet! Some studios charge up to $300 for a photo, CD-ROM, and a video of the fetus.
WELLNESS: Feed a Fever, Starve a Cold? Not!
Sure, you probably knew you were signing on for morning sickness, indigestion, constipation, and even gas when you signed up for pregnancy. But what you might not have realized (that's what you get for skipping the fine print!) is that pregnant women aren't just susceptible to pregnancy symptoms. They're also susceptible to every bug in the book, from colds to stomach viruses to flu. In fact, it may not seem fair (but c'mon — since when is anything about pregnancy fair), but as an expectant mom you can expect to succumb more easily to these nonpregnancy related illnesses than members of the nonpregnant population. That's because your immune system is suppressed during pregnancy in order to protect your fetus (an outsider) from being rejected by your body. Good for your pregnancy and your baby, not so good for your chances of staying healthy. A pound of prevention's always your best investment when it comes to illness — but if you don't manage to duck those germs before they hit, your priority will be getting better fast — and keeping your baby well fed while you do. Whether you've got a fever or a cold, starving is definitely not the way to go — though eating may be more challenging than ever. If your appetite has flown with the flu, or with a nasty cold, or a troublemaking tummy bug, you'll need to try a kinder, gentler approach to eating well. 1. Comfort yourself: Go ahead and soothe those aches and pains the old-fashioned way: Chicken soup for the soul, sinuses, and throat, as well as any foods that make you feel better inside and out. Scrambled eggs, applesauce, hot oatmeal, English muffins, plain pasta, rice, or mashed potatoes are all comforting to you and good for your baby. If it's a stomach bug that's bugging you, start out slowly and think bland, bland, bland (this is the one time when white — as in bread, pasta, and rice — beats whole grain). Stay away from fat in all its forms (have that toast dry, that pasta unbuttered), as well as sugar (which can prolong diarrhea). And don't forget to revisit your old morning sickness pal, ginger, which works just as well when your nausea's triggered by a virus. 2.Drink up: In the short term, liquids are more important than solids — especially if you're losing them through a fever, a runny nose, vomiting, or diarrhea. Aim for at least one cup an hour, and though any liquid you can get down is better than no liquid, opt for nutritious fluids when possible (chicken broth pureed with well-cooked vegetables, juices, smoothies). Hot beverages will definitely soothe a sore throat, so keep a thermos filed with broth, hot decaffeinated tea, or diluted warm juice near your bedside. If your tummy's tumbling, consider sucking on ice chips, Popsicles, or rehydration fluid (such as Pedialyte). 3.See C: Vitamin C is nature's most potent healer, so lay it on yourself in the form of C-rich fruits, vegetables, and juices (but not supplements, unless your practitioner has recommended them). If your tummy's too tender to visit the citrus family, turn to less acidic choices (a mango or papaya, cantaloupe or honeydew, white grape juice that's C fortified). And speaking of vitamins — try to keep up with your one-a-day prenatal habit, but if you can't keep it down, don't worry. You can play nutrient catch-up once you're feeling better. 4.Go easy: If acidic foods are doing a number on your sore throat or tender tummy, stick to foods that won't cause more irritation. Puree the soup, thin out your hot cereals, and dilute juices for maximum comfort. 5.Get milk: Don't shelve milk during your cold just because you've heard it's a mucus maker — research has yet to back up that myth. If it seems to make your symptoms (whatever they are) worse, find other sources of calcium to tide you over. But if it doesn't bother you, go ahead and drink up.
DAD: Paging Dr. Right
Chances are you and your partner have spent more time in medical offices (namely, the ob-gyn or midwife's offices) over the last eight months or so than you ever have in your lives. It's almost time to move on to another set of offices (where you'll also spend an awful lot of time in the years to come), and find yourself another kind of doctor: a pediatrician. Proximity is important (as you'll find out when baby's got a fever and a snowstorm's raging outside), but so is personality. Shop around — ask neighbors and friends with kids how they like their pediatricians. Most important, don't sign up without personally checking out your candidate. Set up a consultation to ask your questions and gauge your comfort level. And don't forget to make sure that Dr. Right is listed in your company insurance plan — otherwise he or she could be Dr. Unaffordable.
MOM: Braxton Hicks Contractions
How do you get to delivery? Practice, practice, practice. You might not be ready for the baby (still haven't picked out that nursery color yet), but your body is certainly gearing up for the big day. And you're reminded of this each time you feel your uterus tightening up. Those are Braxton Hicks contractions — irregular practice contractions that can be first felt around mid-pregnancy and increase in frequency and strength as your pregnancy progresses. Many novice moms-to-be don't notice them as much (or feel them as intensely) as those who are pregnant for the second time, but even first timers are aware of them occasionally. As you get closer to term, they'll become stronger (beginning at the top of your uterus and spreading downward), longer (lasting 15 to 30 seconds or as long as two minutes), and even a little painful. Braxton Hicks contractions are part of prelabor; in effect a warm-up for the real thing. And though they are not true labor and do not dilate or efface the cervix, they may be difficult to distinguish from real labor as they become more intense. To help with the discomfort of Braxton Hicks contractions, change positions (lie down if you're walking around, get up if you're in bed) or take a warm bath. If the contractions do not go away with a change in activity, and become progressively stronger and more regular, you may be in real labor, so be sure to put in a call to your practitioner.
BABY: Squirming, Pushing, Growing
This week your baby weighs almost four pounds and could be up to 19 inches long. And though that's a head-to-toe length, your baby is actually back to a curled-up position (you try standing up in those cramped quarters!). You're likely feeling tapping and squirming instead of your baby's signature rocking and rolling. That's because, while comfy, your baby is a bit tight for exercise space right now. Your baby has also probably settled into the head-down, bottoms-up position in your pelvis. That's because the fetus's head fits better at the bottom of your inverted, pear-shaped uterus. It also makes it easier during childbirth if your baby comes out head first. Fewer than five percent of babies prefer the bottom-down (or breech) position by full-term. Don't worry if your baby hasn't assumed the head-down position yet. There's still a good chance he or she will flip head-side-down before birth — even in the tight confines of your uterus. While your baby is still getting nourishment through the umbilical cord, it won't be long before you'll be bringing on the breast milk or formula (and soon after, the mashed carrots and peas). In anticipation of that momentous transition to mouth feeding, your baby's digestive system is all set and ready to go. And because your baby is accumulating more fat, his or her skin is finally turning opaque (like yours), which means those see-through days are over. Though weeks away from D-day, your baby's looking more and more like a newborn. And speaking of that big day, hope you're resting up for it — because your bambino certainly is. In preparation for that big first date with you, your baby is sleeping like a baby — with sleep cycles of 20 to 40 minutes long (which would also account for the decrease in movement you're likely feeling these days).
LOOKING GOOD: Insane Veins
Yes, you hate them (what's not to hate?), but varicose veins, or swollen blood vessels, are actually more hideous than harmful. The reason why they develop or get worse during pregnancy is because you've got more blood pumping through your body, and your growing uterus is pressing against veins in the pelvic region, allowing all that extra blood to pool in your legs. Hormones only add to the problem (duh! ) by causing blood vessels to relax. What's a mom-to-be to do? Exercise daily to improve circulation (and take frequent breaks from sitting or standing), don't gain too much weight, elevate your legs as often as possible, and sleep on your left side to relieve pressure on your main blood vessels. One more thing to try: Put on support hose before you get out of bed in the morning to prevent the blood from pooling. (The sexiness never ends, does it?)
EXTRA: Neck Know-How
If you're like most women, you carry a lot of tension in your neck, especially during pregnancy, when your posture is off-kilter. The result can be — a pain in the neck. One way to loosen your muscles and relax your mind at the same time is with simple stretches you can do anytime, anywhere. Start by tilting your head to one side, without raising your shoulders (try to melt them down the back instead). Hold for three seconds and exhale. Repeat on the other side. Do this several times a day — at your desk, while you're waiting at your practitioner's office, or on line at the post office.
EXTRA: Baby's First Mall Portrait?
Ultrasound is a tried-and-true prenatal tool (and a window into the wonderful world of your womb), but lately this procedure has taken a giant leap from the confines of a doctor's office to a storefront at the mall. Is it safe to take a peek inside your tummy on the way to Sears? While the FDA has yet to establish rules on these prenatal photography studios, they do warn against having ultrasounds for fun (as opposed to for medical reasons), since such three-dimensional imaging machines use much higher power than the typical ultrasound machines at your doctor's office. And many medical professionals fear that nervous moms-to-be will come away wrongly convinced there's something wrong with their babies, or, worse, that the untrained wand wavers will miss real problems that would be detected by a pro. If you do choose elective sonography, do so wisely (and after you check with your practitioner for the go-ahead). While there's nothing more precious than seeing your baby in three dimensions (except, of course, seeing your baby for real once it's born), limit your visits to one or two, each no more than 15 minutes in length. And bring your wallet! Some studios charge up to $300 for a photo, CD-ROM, and a video of the fetus.
WELLNESS: Feed a Fever, Starve a Cold? Not!
Sure, you probably knew you were signing on for morning sickness, indigestion, constipation, and even gas when you signed up for pregnancy. But what you might not have realized (that's what you get for skipping the fine print!) is that pregnant women aren't just susceptible to pregnancy symptoms. They're also susceptible to every bug in the book, from colds to stomach viruses to flu. In fact, it may not seem fair (but c'mon — since when is anything about pregnancy fair), but as an expectant mom you can expect to succumb more easily to these nonpregnancy related illnesses than members of the nonpregnant population. That's because your immune system is suppressed during pregnancy in order to protect your fetus (an outsider) from being rejected by your body. Good for your pregnancy and your baby, not so good for your chances of staying healthy. A pound of prevention's always your best investment when it comes to illness — but if you don't manage to duck those germs before they hit, your priority will be getting better fast — and keeping your baby well fed while you do. Whether you've got a fever or a cold, starving is definitely not the way to go — though eating may be more challenging than ever. If your appetite has flown with the flu, or with a nasty cold, or a troublemaking tummy bug, you'll need to try a kinder, gentler approach to eating well. 1. Comfort yourself: Go ahead and soothe those aches and pains the old-fashioned way: Chicken soup for the soul, sinuses, and throat, as well as any foods that make you feel better inside and out. Scrambled eggs, applesauce, hot oatmeal, English muffins, plain pasta, rice, or mashed potatoes are all comforting to you and good for your baby. If it's a stomach bug that's bugging you, start out slowly and think bland, bland, bland (this is the one time when white — as in bread, pasta, and rice — beats whole grain). Stay away from fat in all its forms (have that toast dry, that pasta unbuttered), as well as sugar (which can prolong diarrhea). And don't forget to revisit your old morning sickness pal, ginger, which works just as well when your nausea's triggered by a virus. 2.Drink up: In the short term, liquids are more important than solids — especially if you're losing them through a fever, a runny nose, vomiting, or diarrhea. Aim for at least one cup an hour, and though any liquid you can get down is better than no liquid, opt for nutritious fluids when possible (chicken broth pureed with well-cooked vegetables, juices, smoothies). Hot beverages will definitely soothe a sore throat, so keep a thermos filed with broth, hot decaffeinated tea, or diluted warm juice near your bedside. If your tummy's tumbling, consider sucking on ice chips, Popsicles, or rehydration fluid (such as Pedialyte). 3.See C: Vitamin C is nature's most potent healer, so lay it on yourself in the form of C-rich fruits, vegetables, and juices (but not supplements, unless your practitioner has recommended them). If your tummy's too tender to visit the citrus family, turn to less acidic choices (a mango or papaya, cantaloupe or honeydew, white grape juice that's C fortified). And speaking of vitamins — try to keep up with your one-a-day prenatal habit, but if you can't keep it down, don't worry. You can play nutrient catch-up once you're feeling better. 4.Go easy: If acidic foods are doing a number on your sore throat or tender tummy, stick to foods that won't cause more irritation. Puree the soup, thin out your hot cereals, and dilute juices for maximum comfort. 5.Get milk: Don't shelve milk during your cold just because you've heard it's a mucus maker — research has yet to back up that myth. If it seems to make your symptoms (whatever they are) worse, find other sources of calcium to tide you over. But if it doesn't bother you, go ahead and drink up.
DAD: Paging Dr. Right
Chances are you and your partner have spent more time in medical offices (namely, the ob-gyn or midwife's offices) over the last eight months or so than you ever have in your lives. It's almost time to move on to another set of offices (where you'll also spend an awful lot of time in the years to come), and find yourself another kind of doctor: a pediatrician. Proximity is important (as you'll find out when baby's got a fever and a snowstorm's raging outside), but so is personality. Shop around — ask neighbors and friends with kids how they like their pediatricians. Most important, don't sign up without personally checking out your candidate. Set up a consultation to ask your questions and gauge your comfort level. And don't forget to make sure that Dr. Right is listed in your company insurance plan — otherwise he or she could be Dr. Unaffordable.
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